Unity views on dating and sex

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You are destined to be with her, and God will guide you to her." Good luck finding this one in the Bible.

Don't throw kisses around - treat them as something valuable to be used with discretion. Under a second or two could be a useful rule, I suppose.

But for most, the issue of dating involves "romantic attraction and desire." Therefore "dating" must be approached by what the Scripture says regarding romantic desire and marriage, the only relationship in which romantic desire is to be fully expressed.

If "dating" is defined as two single friends of the opposite sex doing things together for fun without any attraction or romantic desire or intimacy involved at all, there is no issue to discuss regarding dating. The Bible describes and gives directions concerning friendship.

Proverbs gives several characteristics of friends and friendships.

Prov.17: 17 says, “A friend loves at all times.” Prov.18: 24 says, “There is a friend that sticks closer than a brother.” Prov.27: 6 says, “When a friend rebukes you, that rebuke can be trusted.” Prov.27: 9 says, “The pleasantness of having a friend springs from his earnest counsel.” Prov.27: 10 says, “Do not forsake your friend.” These verses bring out the fact that the Lord blesses friendship and encourages us to develop them.

God, better than anyone else, appreciates what his invention means. Marriage is the only place to experience truly committed love, love that echoes our relationship with God. In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.

He understands how it works and knows exactly what it's good for. Husbands must love your wives with the same love Christ showed the church. For a man is actually loving himself when he loves his wife (Ephesians , 28). Now, although Adam and his wife were both naked, neither of them felt any shame That's the ideal, the dream, as the Bible sees it: total nakedness, total unity, total love, total sexual satisfaction within marriage.

However, the Bible does describe three kinds of relationships with the opposite sex and gives certain characteristics of each relationship (there are others such as parent/child and sibling, but they don't clarify the issues of dating).

One kind of relationship the Bible describes is friendship.

"Dating" is not a relationship, it is a method people employ in our culture to get to know others of the opposite sex that was not employed in Biblical times.

The Bible does not talk about "dating," but it does talk about relationships.

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