Teaching lds youth about dating


On a lark, I emailed my friend Cynthia Bowman,* a devout Mormon who grew up in Salt Lake City and returns there often, and asked her whether Mormon sex ratios are as lopsided as the ARIS study claimed.

[Editor’s note: “Cynthia Bowman” is a pseudonym, as are other names denoted with an asterisk.

All I had to do was find a few studies to back up my hypothesis and I’d finish my paper before you could say “abstinence.” So you can imagine my confusion when I found that research was not on my side.Heterosexual men are more likely to play the field, and heterosexual women must compete for men’s attention.Of course, tales of scarce men and sexual permissiveness in ancient Sparta won’t convince everyone, so I began to explore the demographics of modern religion.Long, passionate kissing definitely should be avoided.And French kissing is out--it's purpose is to be passionate and suggestive, not to express pure affection (plus, the stuff with the tongues just seems tacky, in my opinion).As a sophomore at BYU, I was taking a marriage prep class when I was assigned to write a paper about a topic of my choice pertaining to dating and marriage.I was an active LDS youth and I had heard my fair share of chastity lessons, so I figured I would write about the harmful effects of premarital sex.Great advice for youth comes from the popular youth speaker, John Bytheway, in his book What I Wish I'd Known in High School, pp. My seminary teacher tried to explain that to a bunch of us sixteen-year-olds one day. "Guys and girls are different, and sometimes expressions of affection mean different things to different people. this means he likes me; he cares for me, oh, how sweet.'" ...56-59, where he writes about the topic "What Do Kisses Mean? Maybe that's like saying, "I really like you." What if you kiss your date? Generally speaking, when a girl is being kissed, she may be thinking, 'Oh . "When a boy is kissing a girl, he may be thinking, 'Wow, this feels good. Can you see how easily a miscommunication or a misunderstanding can happen?Quotes about the remorse and guilt resulting from unchaste behavior were emphasized above all else. The law of chastity is a strict commandment, of course.The seriousness of the law is made clear in the scriptures and in a plethora of general conference talks.

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