Yet when those same characteristics appear on someone of the opposite race they become acceptable.
When a black woman ditches black men altogether because of one terrible relationship and then puts up with just about anything from a white man because she thinks the end results will be better, it makes no sense.
A lot of people do – and Kat Blaque used to be one of them. Somehow, double standards have also crossed over to interracial relationships and with them come lowered expectations, flawed thinking, and poor dating decisions. That’s why men get props for having multiple sexual partners while some women get dogged out for it.But in this episode of her True Tea series, Kat shares how she’s since come to realize how her “preferences” were actually informed by white supremacy.Her honest reflections offer a lot to think about – like how you’ve been influenced by the beauty myths society teaches to all of us.Among non-blacks, whites were the most open to dating blacks, followed by Latinos and Asians.Asians and Latinos were more likely to exclude blacks because of social disapproval, and whites were more likely to exclude blacks because of physical attraction."I'm not with my partner to make some big statement about anything," Sabrina Nelson, a 19-year-old white woman in a relationship with a 19-year-old black man, told Mic."I'm with him because I love him and he's one of the best people I've ever met."And yet Nelson and others told Mic that they have encountered many people who believe they must be motivated to be together by some, external factor other than the desire to share their lives.Some very nice looking, successful, and intelligent men and women are increasingly finding themselves in ratchet relationships with people of the opposite race who have nothing to offer. Because they actually have a beef with men and women from their own race that they don’t want to be honest about.Time after time, people display their disdain for those within their own race that are too dumpy, too frumpy, too fat, too lean, too angry, too unambitious, too trifling, too hateful, too independent, too this, too that.