This week I’m posting four responses from women dating widowers.
Next week I’ll post experiences sent in by widowers.
They also invited us to go boating along with his daughter. Well my husband went to his sons but felt he was letting me down so decided not to go boating. Several times over these years I've experienced devastating things in my life with loved ones passing and with my health. not even me) and they go through and decide who wants what. So it's not like I tried to take any of their mother's things away from them.Every time I try to plan a "holiday" so that my husband can share it with his family it never works.I tried this last Christmas, worked for days in the kitchen, only for my husband to get a phone call one hour prior to dinner that his daughter was sick and couldn't make it..her family was going to come. When the outings aren't sucessfull, meaning not everyone shows up or if we don't see them for awhile then she lays on a guilt trip to her father..stating we just don't get to see one another. I told my husband when we married that we would have to live in my house (I already had it paid for) that I couldn't live in his house that he shared with his wife.Anyone have any advice for me on how to deal with my husbands adult children after the death of their mother?Their mother dropped over dead, unexpectantly, in her early 50's. I just feel like an outsider that will never be let in.Babs wrote: I’m dating a man who has two children 17 and 23.As I agree with your comments…I question how long should one wait for the children to be ready to meet me?However, this information is as relevant for men dating widows.It also applies for families who experienced divorce.(If there are other widowers out there who still want to contribute, please email me.) For those who comment on these posts, keep in mind that each family and child is different.What works for one family/child may not work for yours.