Dating while getting sober

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Of course, there are always exceptions to the rule, but assuming that we would not want our emotional and mental well-being to hinge on a miracle, is it worth the risk?

But this is not what the recovering addict is thinking about.

In fact, we try to respond to all reader comments with a personal and prompt reply.

As eager as you are to rebuild your life, you will do well to take it slow and not make any major changes in at least your first year of sobriety. Early sobriety is a time for you to get to know yourself and learn self-acceptance.

Along with the excitement of new beginnings, you might find that getting sober can be lonely. Even though toxic relationships with people, places and things can release you, they also create a big hole.

You might be tempted to jump into dating, starting a new relationship, or even ending an existing relationship or marriage and start over.

He admits while women seem on board with dating someone who doesn't drink, they don't always know what they are getting themselves into.

I’m currently single again, a sober divorcée in the strange world of online dating. How do you allude to your past (and present) situations without lying or scaring off a potential match?

You can tell them, “I’ve been in six rehabs, four psych wards, and I’ve been arrested for assault.” And, they’re like, “Of course you have.” The downside is that they, too, are often a ticking time bomb.

Natasha, an ex-pat who's been on the wagon for 10 years agrees.

But should you get romantically involved while in early recovery?

Can dating endanger your progress in recovery or sobriety? Experts recommend that people refrain from making big decisions and significant changes right away (for at least 12 months after getting sober).

Dating a dude that's sober (like, full-blown, 12-step kind) can be a challenge.

But even if you can't live without your happy hours, it doesn't have to be a deal-breaker, according to a guy who has sworn off booze. But it's not easy being the soda drinker in a party of two.

Recovering addicts hear this all the time in 12-step programs.

However, this sound bit of wisdom is rarely heeded.

The old “I’ve wrestled with my demons and won” line? How about a simple, “I’m a pretty hot colossal f**k up”?

It’s always a little awkward when a potential date wants to “meet you for a drink.” Telling them you’re sober feels like confessing to some horrible chronic STD.

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