Recently, Clarisse Thorn admirably tried to pick through the sewage strewn all over “pickup artist” (PUA) communities and find a handful of gems that could be plucked out and proffered to the socially awkward man who finds that he’s not getting laid as often as he’d like.(To which I say, ) Clarisse is less cynical than I am on this issue; I think the PUA mentality is too toxic to be polished into something non-misogynist.This ethos can be applied in the dating world, too.How can you enhance the lives of the women you’re interested in?
I was talking with some girlfriends one day and one told me that she gets men messaging her on a certain app for quick hookups. I use the exact same app and had never once had a man inquire about a sexual rendezvous.There’s an old saying that “nice guys finish last.” If you’re someone who believes in karma and being a decent human being, you’ll still strive to be a kind gentleman.However, being “nice” doesn’t have to be bland and boring!I’m not saying these women have landed on any one magical app full of dateable men and steady dates.But with a discerning eye and a sense of humor, they have tamed Tinder and are meeting men who share their desire for a relationship.When it comes to dating, things are never as easy as they should be.From trying to figure out where to meet nice guys to navigating a budding romance, dating can often feel like too much to handle on your own.Get clear on your true passions and interests outside of dating.It will energize you in a way that makes you more magnetic, interesting, and appealing to women. Focus On Bringing Value to Women’s Lives As a nice guy, you like to help people when you can.Focus on knowing ahead of time what kinds of positive experiences you want to bring them.From lavish dinners and gifts to unforgettable experiences that uplift them, your nice guy traits can be synonymous with killer game in the dating scene. Downplay Your Nice-Ness This may seem counter-intuitive, but it happens: bad boys can be more alluring than nice guys – at least on the surface.