I'm not telling you to stay with her and tough it out... I would go to great lengths to emphasize NOT to stay with her, if you can't accept her as an entire package.I'm sure there is someone out there who can and will.
It’s what most normal people do who don’t know how to deal with their internal upset.
Thus, underneath all of these behaviors lie unconscious motives that serve to keep him safe in his comfort zone.
**Please note – Since I first started Baggage Reclaim, while it’s still read mainly by women, I have a lot of male readers too, as well as readers in all types of relationship.
As I've gotten older, though, and have been in more (and longer term) relationships, my opinions on all of this have changed quite a bit.
It might be because I work with clients on these very topics or because I went to school to learn how to deal with my own emotions and understanding them.
If you’re going out with a woman, just swap he for she.
Please also note that posts have been gender neutral since autumn 2010.** In my book Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl, I share some of the most common signs and behaviours that indicate that you’re involved with a Mr Unavailable – an emotionally – and often spiritually and physically – unavailable man.
Everyone, especially anyone older than the age of 18 or so, has some sort of emotional baggage.
Of course, this looks different for everyone and does not manifest the same in any two people.
In this post, I provide an overview of these signs and behaviours so that you can get a reading on your current relationship (or ‘non-relationship) situation.
What I can assure you of is that their unavailability isn’t sparked by something you said or did, it’s not that they’ve ‘changed’ and that you need to find the right ‘access code’ and you’re definitely not going crazy; they’re More often than not, the primary issue that women focus on is the emotional unavailability but there are always physical and spiritual issues to prop it up.